How to Win Her Back by Ignoring Her
So your girlfriend has left you and you want to know how to win her back.
You don't really know how you might achieve this goal, so you will probably do what most other men do and go with what is in your heart and mind. Unfortunately this is a sure fire way of pushing your ex girlfriend even further away from you, never mind winning her back.
The first that you need to understand is there is a very good chance that you can get your ex girlfriend back, if you follow the right game plan. This plan does not involve standing outside her front door with eyes full of tears. It does not involve ringing her umpteen times a day. It does not involve pleading for another chance and telling her that you have changed. The first step of your plan should be to ignore her completely.
Yes you heard that right!
You may be asking how you can get her back if you cannot talk to her. The answer to this is that it is not about you talking to her, it is about her deciding to talk to you.
Let's face facts; she has gone because currently she no longer wants to be near you. So do you really think that if you are in her face for a couple of weeks after the break up, her heart is going to melt and that she is going to come running to you? All you will achieve is to irritate her and dislike you even more. Put yourself in her shoes and just think about it. You can see that it makes sense.
You need to give her space by not opening any communication with her for a couple of weeks. There are 2 things that will happen during this time.
Firstly she will have to live without you, and that can be difficult if you have been with someone for a while. Regardless of the break up, you need to understand that she obviously was with you because she liked you or loved you. Now that you are not with her, there will be a certain amount of emptiness.
Secondly she will be confused about why you have not tried to contact her. Remember that you are not the only one whose emotions are all over the place. She would have expected you to follow the pattern of trying to get her back. Since this has not happened, it will keep her wondering why you haven't tried. This achieves one major objective. It keeps you in her mind.
Sooner or later she will contact you on the pretence of seeing how you are getting on. This is going to be your chance to win her back.
You will not ask for another chance. You will ask her how she is doing. You will suggest that if she is free sometime, that maybe you should meet up for a coffee. You will come across as cheerful, confident, and as if you have moved on with your life.
Your ex girlfriend will take you up on the offer of a coffee. Simply because you have acted the complete opposite to what she expected, and she will be curious to know why.
Now the situation is going to be set to really win her back, just make sure that you make the most of this opportunity.
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